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Grizzly Weinstein
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April 2009
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Grizzly Weinstein [userpic]
Flattered

I recently got a response to my polymatch ad. Before anyone jumps in saying that I shouldn't be looking for another relationship because I have plenty; you are right. I am not looking for another relationship and my polymatch ad is set to "not looking"

So it is slightly more flattering when someone decides to answer it anyway. Either they think I am witty, or they think I am cute, or both (I am going with both).

In the response, she acknowledged seeing that I am not looking and asked if that precluded friendly emails. I think it will be nice to set up an email exchange with a person. I once found an extremely interesting person on non-poly match.com located in CA. Her ad said not to send the normal "pickup email", she only wanted to hear about your weekend. She didn't even care of you were looking for a date. I though this was a cool idea and sent her one. She sent an email in response telling me about her weekend as if she knew me as a good friend. Pretty cool concept, I did send and receive a few more but I am a little scatterbrained about things like that and eventually lost the email address (oops).

It is sort of like LJ only a little different. I think I might try to do something similar with the person who wants to exchange friendly emails. I have recently agreed with someone else's assessment that I don't do 'casual' sex. I seem to be pretty incapable of trying to have sex with someone without trying to establish a relationship. This is probably true. I want to have female friends, but my relationship/sex non separation coupled with the "Law of Harry Met Sally" (men and women can't be friends without wanting to have sex with each other) makes it a little harder.

I do have quite a few cool female friends, but I do also want to have sex with them (N.B. want is not the same as raging urge to act upon). One in particular (who I did date for a short time and had sex with for a slightly longer time) is finally off my mental list as a still want to have sex with. She has not changed (anymore than your average person) but I think I have developed a "full" respect for our relationship as a friends-only relationship. I think mentally knowing this and emotionally (or even gonadly) knowing this are two different things.

With this in mind I really want the opportunity to develop a friendship with a woman who I have not had sex with nor wanted to have sex with before a friendship formed.

Someone needs to register liverambles.com and link it to livejournal. It seems to be the same thing for me.

Comments
Just Friends

I'm going to have to disagree with you (*gasp*). I believe that it is possible to have friends of the opposite sex with whom you do not have sex nor desire to have sex. I have several.

We've had this discussion before though - it didn't usually end welll... You know, with my being right and all that. :)